It’s another week and here I am again. Discussing a topic that I sure didn’t plan. Last week we discussed the significance of Godly sisterhood. It’s time to peel back more layers. At the core of Godly sisterhood is relationship. How can someone be your “sister” and you know nothing about them? We are women well versed in how we should do things. We mention that we should be given to hospitality. We quote how we should love our neighbors as ourselves. However, if our sisterhood remains on a theological surface (i.e. this is how we should respond) and never turns into demonstration (i.e. this is what I am doing) then we are sounding brass and tinkling cymbals. We are beautiful, dissonant noise. We were created to be a demonstration of Christ in the earth and what better way to be an example than in our sisterhood relationships.
Many of us as Godly women are very focused on our lives, our families, our everyday challenges. It is understandable that we should be mindful of what is going on in our lives. At the same time, we are also called to see those around us. More specifically our awareness should be sharpened to the point we rejoice with those who rejoice and can weep with those who weep (Romans 12:15) This disconnect happens because we don’t see one another.
We don’t know what our sisters like or dislike.
We don’t know what brings our sisters joy or grief.
We don’t know their communication style or how to speak to them honorably.
We don’t see beyond the surface of their appearance.
Our inability to take theological principles and apply them appropriately could be one reason why many of our sisterhood relationships are superficial. How do I know? What do we know about the women we attend services with? Do we know their heart? Do we know their values? Or do we see them as a lady with cute shoes and nice hair? We also know that the Bible challenges us to go beyond loving those who love us with ease but demonstrating Christ’s love to those we may not know as well. Matthew 5:47 says, “If you are kind only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else? Even pagans do that “(NLT). If our love only extends to our circles we are missing an opportunity to grow.
There is fear that goes with our hesitation to reach beyond our comfort zone: risk. Who wants to extend kindness only to be shown disdain? Who expects to be met with coldness at the first meeting or mistrust when your heart is just to be a good friend? Just as our sisterhood relationships must go beyond the surface, so must our risk taking. The Bible never said that when we demonstrated love that everyone would love back with ease. Beyond the exterior of each person is much more. There is a frame work of why a person responds the way they respond. There is a reason why someone avoids connection or is hesitant to trust. If you are kind only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else? Even pagans do that.
What would happen if Godly women demonstrate genuine relationships? How many women would understand their value? How many women would be able to share these values with their families? How many women would find a greater cause to live? The impact could truly be greater than we can imagine.
Presently, there are poor examples of sisterhood in the form of reality tv. Since there aren’t a lot of Godly women standing boldly in the demonstration of sisterhood we are greeted with the noise of gossip, derogatory names, demeaning actions for acceptance and the like. I believe this is a time when Godly women are being called to the frontlines to be an example and bring greater attention to the Kingdom of God in their relationships.
Are you a sister on the surface? Or are you making a daily effort to demonstrate sisterhood? It is time to bring the Bible to life by being an example of sisterhood and service to one another.
Question of the Week:
How can I demonstrate sisterhood this week?