If we understood our identity, we would address our issues with self-esteem. If we were honest, many of our issues begin because we don’t understand who we are. This week, I was asked a question about how to embrace a healthy identity. What really impressed me was that the person who asked was a young person. Many of us struggle to resolve who we are and spend a lifetime in an identity crisis. In fact, this crisis has become an epidemic in our nation. As believers we know (or should) that God is concerned with the well-being of others (not just ourselves). We must address this topic so we can have a healthy grasp of our identity. We can also better embrace and honor others instead of being in conflict with their uniqueness.
How can we determine if we understand our identity? We will be able to see the following:
- We will recognize the value God places on our lives is the same value He sees in others.
- We will speak life versus death against others. It disappoints God when we speak against His handiwork. When we use our words to discredit the value of others, it shows that we are blind to our identity.
- We will operate in purpose. We will make a daily commitment to honor God with our words, our decisions, and our example.
I can hear you already, “Wait! How does this answer the issue of self-esteem?”
I’m glad you asked. 1 Corinthians 6:20 says, “…for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.” (NLT) Our image (esteem) must be based on who God designed us to be. Only when our identity is established in God is He glorified. Our lives should point others in the direction of Christ. He gives us the answer!
We have to learn how to rid ourselves of the superficial definitions of self-esteem. Our definitions usually are self-driven versus God-centered. I’ve seen some outwardly beautiful people with no understanding that God is concerned about their character. I’ve seen people who gloat about their skill and excellence, but their estimation is selfishly driven.
To God, beauty begins at the heart. 1 Samuel 16:7 says “The Lord doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart (NLT). God wants us to develop who we are versus hiding behind our need to be right. A Godly identity allows the world to see Christ, not us.
I commend this young lady for reaching out and asking such a simple but profound question. It made me think about where I am. It’s essential for us to teach the next generation where true value comes from, so they do not become jaded young men and women who grapple for identity. We, as adults, who might struggle with our identity can still find freedom and wholeness.
We can ask God the following questions:
- Who am I and what do I mean to You?
- Are there any areas of my life to not honor You?
We don’t need to spend our lifetime discrediting one another to find value. We can embrace who we are in God and find freedom. We must make time to learn and embrace our Godly identity. When we do, people will see our example but glorify God.
Below are a few scriptures to help you to embrace your identity. As you study each scripture, ask how it helps you to understand who you are.
You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body
and knit me together in my mother’s womb.
Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. (NLT)
1 Peter 2:9
But you are not like that, for you are a chosen people. You are royal priests a holy nation, God’s very own possession. As a result, you can show others the goodness of God, for he called you out of the darkness into his wonderful light.
Practical Application This Week:
Spend time meditating on your Godly identity. How will you live differently with this insight?