The holiday season is filled with season’s cheer. The commercials are geared to encourage slow-moving gentleman to go to Kay and secure a kiss or better yet, get a wonderful gift from Tiffany’s (who doesn’t like their signature Tiffany Blue). Hallmark has a series of romantic movies where a single girl meets a single guy and then through cinematography genius they get married and find the one they were missing in their life. For someone who is single, all of these movies or marketing around marriage can make you feel singled out and most often your married friends don’t see it.
I also appreciate the wisdom shared by one of my sister-friends,Erika Adams, which mentioned that single means unmarried not necessarily available. We forget that singleness is a gift as well and that some people are called to singleness (no matter how great you think your single friend would like Joe, Michael, or Roberto).
No matter if you want to be married someday or you are embracing singleness, know that you are not forgotten. There is beauty in this season of your life. Embrace it! We miss a crucial message in our presentation to our single sisters and it is the beauty of the journey. Your journey might encourage you to do the inner work of learning your likes, dislikes, places to grow, or new adventures to pursue. Your journey might cause you to travel more, try new things, or simply conclude that you are a rock star!
There isn’t a one size fits all book on the topic of singleness. This journey is a part of a chapter of your story, but you get to decide how it will be written.
To my married sisters, this is not the time of year to say, “Count yourself lucky! You don’t have to deal with …” We are blessed as well and believe it or not, the conversation isn’t always about our life or our experiences. What are some practical ways we can show support to our single sisters this holiday season?
Make sure to take the time to have conversation with your single sisters, asking what they need during the holiday season.
Make sure to be attentive to the time that your single sisters may need during the holidays. Maybe they would like to go with you (not your husband, children, or a partridge in a pear tree) to enjoy a movie or holiday festivities. Ask versus assume their needs.
Singleness is a blessing, not a disease. Celebrate your single sisters recognizing their value and worth.
To my sisters who can identify with today’s topic, please feel free to reach out to Ashley@ashleysauls.com. How can we support you this holiday season? Also feel free to share how this article inspires you to serve another sister or to feel supported as a sister.